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Celebrate What You Are Good At
Constructive criticism is a big part of our job. We have to evaluate what we see in front of us and figure out what needs to improve. It's natural to focus on the negative - what we have to work on. The stuff we are doing well - yes, great job, well done, but if we don't rebound the ball better we aren't going anywhere. We don't have to teach or coach as much with the stuff we are doing well. The stuff we have to improve on, that's where coaching comes in. We are naturally focused on where we need to get better.
The challenge is this can lead us down a negative path that is not very productive. We focus so much of our attention on what we aren't good at, and we forget to appreciate what we are doing well. We were great defensively when I was coaching at Rhode Island College, the main reason why we were consistently at a championship level. We coached it hard and our kids bought in to a defensive mindset. We held them accountable on that end in ways they probably weren't used to.
As our success continued, I came to expect it. And I stopped appreciating it. When we had a great defensive possession, someone took a charge or made a great hustle play, we didn't celebrate it. That's what we are supposed to do. But you better believe our guys heard about it when we missed an assignment. The result was a negative tone at our practices, and in an odd way it grew the more success we had. The more we won, the more I focused on what wasn't right, and the more they heard about it. I stopped appreciating and celebrating what we were good at.
Over time I started feeling a lot of pressure on myself, almost as if everything had to be perfect. It didn't feel right. I started grinding my team in a way that wasn't productive and the environment in our gym wasn't very fun. I would watch film and see our guys making these big time defensive plays and realize I wasn't appreciating their effort. At one point, one of my captains talked to the team after a game about the tone at practice, and how he needed to do a better job to create a more positive tone. I realized he was talking to me.
I am a much better coach when I appreciate what we are good at instead of focusing so much on what we need to get better at. Celebrating the positive didn't always come naturally to me. I felt that we worked at it, drilled it, and we should be good at it. I wanted to expect success, which we did. But that doesn't mean we couldn't celebrate it.
My players have always responded a lot better when the good things they did - no matter how small or routine - were celebrated. Don't forget to celebrate what you are good at, no matter how much success you are having. It will make you a better coach.
John U. Bacon on Michigan
Some interesting leadership points in here - his take on what Michigan should do with the Juwan Howard situation, before Michigan and the Big 10 handed down any penalties.
https://johnubacon.com/2022/02/what-juwan-howard-did-and-what-michigan-should-do-about-it/
Urgency vs. Anxiety
When we are coaching we feel like a sense of urgency is a good thing. We are always drilling our guys on the importance of what's right in front of them - the next play, and how to do their job. In practice, with scouting, anything we are doing to prepare we want a sense of urgency. We certainly want them playing with urgency. What we are doing is important, and if this matters to you it should reflect in your approach. We want to instill a sense of urgency into our teams.
There is a difference between anxiety and urgency, but the line is a fine one. When you are trying to instill urgency, you can create a level a pressure that causes anxiety. Anxiety shows up when players really start to press. They are trying too hard, moving too fast, trying to make things happen too quickly. Anxiety becomes more about the result. Urgency is about the process.
When your players feel anxious, they get out of character. It's a mentality of "I have to make this 3" versus the focus to have your hands and feet ready when you know you might get a shot. Being aggressive and locked in on offense so that you are prepared when the ball comes your way comes from the right level of urgency. Forcing plays and trying too hard to create offense for yourself is a sign of anxiety. Urgent teams put the proper weight on the moment with the composure to handle it. Anxious teams are uncomfortable and looking for a quick solution. Anxious teams rarely play well.
You see it a lot when a player comes back from an injury. He's been out for a few weeks and he knows he can't get that time back. He's probably coming off the bench instead of starting, and he knows he's not going to play as many minutes as he works his way back. He wants to get it all back at once. He's anxious to see the result, so the process happens too fast for him. Everyone keeps telling him to relax, but it's not that simple. He wants to get back to his best level quickly, he doesn't have time to relax. He needs to know what urgent looks like, versus what it means to be anxious.
Emphasizing urgency is important, but if you feel like your team is anxious you may have to dial it back. If they are moving too fast, reacting emotionally to everything that happens and unable to focus on what's important, they are probably too anxious. And they won't be productive.
Take a step back and evaluate how you are feeling. If you feel jumpy, edgy and uncomfortable, your team is probably getting their anxiety from you. If you notice it in them, you may have to change your approach to get them back to center. It happens a lot in big games or high pressure situations - at least I know it does with me. I have to take a deep breath and make sure I'm thinking about how they are feeling, not how I am feeling.
Urgency is a good thing, but anxiety is not going to help you. If you see it in your team, it's likely they are seeing it in you. Urgency is about approaching the process the right way, and not about the result.
Let Them Lead
Taken from an interview in the New York Times with John Bacon, who wrote the book "Let Them Lead" about coaching one of the worst hockey teams in America. A key part of his leadership approach is giving up control and letting his players take ownership.
Was handing over control of the team to the players themselves what turned things around?
Bad teams, nobody leads. Good teams, coaches lead. Great teams, everybody leads. It works. It works at ice hockey. It works in newsrooms. It works during Stanley Cup runs. It can work in any company. But it’s scary, and it takes courage.
How does it work?
You identify what is essential, what is negotiable, and what is a deal breaker. A lack of trust is a deal breaker. In the work world, once trust is broken, you’re not going to get it back.
At first, I only trusted them to stretch and count simultaneously, and they couldn’t do it. It was that bad. But as time went on, they assumed responsibility for themselves as a group. We just kept doing it. My belief was, over time we’re going to learn this thing. The cool part was by the end of the summer, we were out in the field stretching and if a parent or the athletic director came up to me, I could say, “Seniors, you run it,” and they would.
Be patient with results. Don’t be patient with behaviors. If the behaviors are right, you’ll get there. By the end of the third year, one night I said, “OK, seniors, you are going to coach the entire game.” And they went out and smoked the other team.
Changing Organizational Culture
Very interesting thought on one way to change the culture of an organization - in this case, speaking of Major League Baseball clubs.
What if your goal was to get your people the most opportunities to interview elsewhere? How would that impact your staff? Or your roster? Many of us at all levels are impacted by players looking to go elsewhere - what if it was your stated goal to help them get there?
It may sound counterintuitive, and it may seem nuts when it comes to your roster, but this is a very interesting way to look at organizational culture.
Chris Beard - 4:1 and a 2x4
When Chris Beard was coaching at Texas Tech he used to repeat a quote from Bobby Knight to his team. "The mental is to the physical as 4 is to 1." It became a big part of the mentality of his program, with "4:1" signs popping up, and some fans even getting tattoos.
He also used to carry a 2x4 piece of wood with him on every road trip. His point was that if he put that 2x4 down on the ground and asked a player to walk over it, they would have no problem doing it. But if he took the same 2x4 and brought it to to the top level of the arena and laid it across two beams at the top of the building, it would be much harder for anyone to walk across it. Even though it was the same 2x4 and the same ask, to simply walk across it. Nothing had changed, except the environment around you and the 2x4.
It's a great way to illustrate the challenge of playing on the road. Nothing is different, expect the environment around you. Are you going to let that affect the way you play?
Scrum Buckets
Alex Cruz was a 6-3 wing forward who played for me at Rhode Island College. He was one of those guys who didn't really have a natural position. He wasn't a great shooter or a gifted ball-handler. He wasn't a post player and didn't have great size or strength. He didn't really have any plus skills. He had a great feel for the game, great instincts and really knew how to play. He was a definitive "good things happen when he's in the game" player. We were just better when he was on the floor.
It wasn't that he was just a glue guy who did the little things. He produced. He scored, he rebounded and he made plays for others. When you looked at the box score after the game he'd have 5 points, 4 rebounds and 2 assists in 14 minutes. You just didn't quite know how he did it. He was also a terrific defender who could guard just about every position. He was a talented basketball player.
The problem with Alex Cruz - well, it was actually a problem with me more than with Alex Cruz - was that he was hard to define. He was a guy who got and created scrum buckets. He'd find his way into an offensive rebound and a put back. He'd get a deflection defensively that would lead to an easy basket. He'd get into the teeth of the defense and find an open teammate for a 3. We used to joke that he'd go out on the floor and start "bumping into stuff" and good things would happen. We considered him a part of our checking line.
I had to learn how to coach players like Alex Cruz. Because he was hard to define, I wasn't really sure how to use him. It wasn't just that he didn't have a natural position. He didn't have a natural position or a specific skill or type of game. He just played. And he produced. But it was hard to insert him into your game plan and say "here's how we are going to use him to beat Keene State." He wasn't a guy you ran plays for. He wasn't a guy you stuck in the corner to space out your offense and drill an open 3. I learned, after time, that he was a guy you could just stick in the middle of your zone offense and use him as a creator when he had some space. But that took a while. As good as he was, it was hard to see how he was specifically going to help us win a game going into it.
Most players are easy to define, and that makes it easier for us as coaches. They can really shoot it, or they are a point guard, or a post player. They are quick, great ball-handlers, or big bangers. We know what to expect and how to deploy them. But this also makes it easy for us to put them in a box. We have a definition for who they are and what they do, and when we need that we go to them. We as coaches can limit our ability to get the most out of our players by defining them to specifically.
We also have to learn how to coach the scrum bucket guys. They guys who don't have that defined skill that is above average in any one area, and don't blow you away in an individual workout. They are guys that you can't really call plays for or put in a specific spot to get you a bucket. But they are going to produce and help your team win. And when you look at the box score at the end of the game, you'll see what you want to see. You just might not be able to explain how it all got there.
It's Hard To Guard Unselfish
This is a great example of a time and score truth that I steadfastly believe in - if the guy who starts with the ball in a late clock situation isn't the guy who shoots it, you will get a better look. Unselfish is very hard to guard, especially in late clock situations when everyone is so attracted to the ball.
Al Durham shows great composure and unselfishness, and Jared Bynum gets a clean look to win the game.
You can never practice time and score enough. Teaching your players to understand the clock and to be unselfish in these situations can get you better looks.
"Help Them Help Themselves"
"No matter what level, front runners have a shelf life. There is going to be adversity. I don’t think any coach solves the problem by himself. He is not going to take a mentally weak player or team and strengthen them. Rather, he has to help them help themselves. They have to be active participants in their own rescue. Great players want to be helped, they want to be coached, they want to be corrected. YOU have to help them in those critical areas to have more poise and more resolve"
- Jeff Van Gundy
Leadership Truths
- It's a skill that can be taught and developed.
- We can't ask for it if we don't define it.
- It's not about you, it's about them.
- Effective leaders ask a lot of questions.
- Leadership is behavior, not words on a shooting shirt.
- If you don't model it, don't expect it.
- Empowering your team to lead from the middle is powerful.
- Experience can help, but being older doesn't make you a leader.
- If they don't get it, it's on you.
- Listening is an essential skill for great leaders.
- Great leaders develop leaders, not followers.
- Three things genuinely motivate your team - autonomy, mastery and purpose
- There isn't one model that works - your approach must fit your personality.
- Your culture isn't what your veterans say, it's what your rookies do.
- Leaders are grounded in perspective.
- Everyone on your team can lead if you define it the right way.
- If they aren't talking enough, you are probably talking too much.
- The biggest mistake you can make is to say one thing and do another.
- The medium is the message - your tone speaks really loud.
- The less you talk, the more your leadership approach is working.
- They won't believe in what you do if they don't believe in who you are.
- The traditional leadership model - a few leading many - isn't the most effective way.
- Platitudes and catch phrases don't equal leadership.
- What you do is so loud, sometimes they can't hear what you say.
- Calm is a superpower for effective leaders.
- When in doubt, do nothing.
- Expecting more leadership out of certain people means you expect less out of others.
- Leaders are fans - they openly appreciate the right approach.
- Leaders are genuinely curious about others.
- A lack of authenticity is the quickest way to lose them.
- It's not yours, it's theirs.
Which Team Would You Rather Coach?
Which team would you rather coach?
One team is really talented, probably the most talented team in the league. They are deep, with good players at every position. But they aren't very tough mentally. They don't have the right approach, don't necessarily bring it every day, and they aren't very mature. They have enough talent to beat every team on their schedule, but they lose some games they should never lose because of their approach.
The other team isn't as talented, but has a much better approach. They are tough as nails, they bring it every day and they are mentally connected. They play hard all of the time. They just aren't that skilled. They struggle to shoot and have a hard time scoring enough points to win. But they guard every night, and their approach to practice is great.
Which team would you rather coach? Or maybe a better question is which team would you rather play against?
My last team at RIC, in 2013-14, was very talented, probably the most talented team in the league. We were better than every team in the league on paper. But we were immature. The mentality of that team drove me crazy. We had good players, and really good kids. It wasn't like we had any problems or bad chemistry. We just relied too much on our talent. We knew we were better than the teams we were playing, and we didn't really work that hard. We didn't practice well. We were inconsistent. We definitely lost some games we never should have lost.
The year before, my second to last year at RIC (2012-13), we were the opposite. We had a veteran team that no question had a lot of talent, but we didn't have the skill or playmakers we were used to at RIC. We were tough as nails, though, mentally and physically. We brought it every day and our practices were wars. We made each other better. We had 11 or 12 kids every night we could count on. You might beat us, but you were going to have to kill us.
Which team would you rather coach? The extremely talented team that isn't that tough, that doesn't bring it every day? Or the extremely tough team that doesn't have as much talent, but gets after it every single day?
I guess the question really comes down to which team you think you can have a bigger impact on. My guess is most coaches would take the talent. We all feel like if you give us enough talent, we'll find a way to make it work. Talent is the stuff you can't teach. Give us the long, athletic players who can run the floor and play above the rim, and we can teach them how to play. We'll show them the right habits and get them to bring it every day. This team has a high ceiling, and we have confidence in our ability to coach them to it.
The tough, mature that team that isn't as skilled or talented is probably harder to win big with. We love the fact that they bring it every day, but there is only so far we can take them. It's hard to throw your team's maturity out there on the floor and win on the road. You need players. You need playmakers. Somebody who can create baskets when you need them. We look at that team that is all toughness and heart and love coaching them, but they have a lower ceiling.
I'm not sure we look at these types of teams - or these types of players - the right way. I've been there and coached both of these teams. I know what it feels like. It's really annoying to coach the talented team that doesn't get it, but it's easy to feel like you are going to get them there. There is a comfort level knowing you are good. Coaching the tough team that isn't as skilled is more rewarding every day, but you always feel like you aren't going to be good enough. There's only so much you can do.
We always want to coach as much talent as we can. We'll take the high level athlete who doesn't necessarily know how to play, because we think we can coach him. But the kid who's tough as nails but not as skilled, we always tend to question if he's good enough at first glance. Toughness is hard to teach, and hard to beat. But for some reason we don't always appreciate it.
My last team at RIC - 2013-14 - the one that was talented but not very tough, frustrated me all year. But we turned it on late in the year and won the Little East Tournament, making it back to the NCAA Tournament for the 8th straight year. We lost in the first round of the NCAA Tournament and finished 23-7.
My 2012-13 team - the one that was more tough than talented - went 26-4 and won the Little East Regular Season and Tournament Championships. We won our first game in the NCAA Tournament before getting upset in the second round.
Both teams ended up in essentially the same place. But I'm pretty sure the 2012-13 team would have beaten the 2013-14 team 8 out of 10 times. I know which team I'd rather coach in that game.
I know how important talent is, and you have to have it to win. Talent makes you comfortable. Winning games with grit and toughness isn't comfortable, because it's hard to game plan for your checking line. It isn't that comfortable going into a game trying to out tough people. You'd rather have playmakers. But that tough team that brings it every day is usually going to figure it out. Find a way to appreciate the toughness and make sure they know how valuable it is. Toughness will translate to long-term success if you cultivate it.
I know which team I'd rather coach. And I know which team I'd rather play against.
Competition - Phil Knight
From his book "Shoe Dog."
I thought back on my running career at Oregon. I'd competed with, and against, men far better, faster, more physically gifted. Many were future Olympians. And yet I'd trained myself to forget this unhappy fact. People reflexively assume that competition is always a good thing, that it always brings out the best in people, but that's only true of people who can forget the competition. The art of computing, I'd learn from track, is the art of forgetting, and I now reminded myself of that fact. You must forget your limits. You must forget your doubts, your pain, your past. You must forget that internal voice screaming, begging, "Not one more step!" And when it's not possible to forget, you must negotiate with it. I thought over all the races in which my mind wanted one thing, and my body wanted another, those laps in which I had to tell my body, "Yes, you raise some excellent points, but let's keep going anyway..."
Frustration
I've always felt that frustration is just a useless emotion. It's an emotion we see a lot on teams, yet it doesn't do us any good. It makes us worse. Getting upset or angry can sometimes fuel you to work harder or practice better. You can commit more effort. Confidence can drive you to do more. But frustration just makes you worse.
Don't allow frustration in your gym as a coach. Easier said than done, I realize that. We all get frustrated when things aren't going our way. It starts with you as a coach. When you start to feel frustrated, don't let it overcome you. Find a positive way to get out of it. When you see it from your players, nip it in the bud right away. Turn it into something else.
It's okay to get angry, if anger is going to drive you to do better. Turn frustration into a different emotion, one that can fuel you instead of bringing you down. A frustrated player gets worse. A pissed off player tries something different, starts fighting his way back immediately.
Frustration doesn't allow you to move on to the next play. It impacts your approach, and it lingers. It brings negativity into the gym and gives it a place to grow. Nothing you do should make you worse on the next play. If it does, you aren't very mentally tough. And mentally tough teams don't sustain success.
Make it clear that frustration is not accepted in your gym, or in your program. That doesn't mean guys won't get emotional. We all do, and at times that emotion will be negative. Learn to turn it around quickly. Don't accept frustration from yourself, and don't accept it from your players. Make it clear that frustration has no place in your gym and your team's mental toughness will grow.
The Message They Receive
The message they receive is more important than the message you send. You may think you are being direct and clear, but if what they are hearing is different than what you are trying to say, it's on you. Your job as a leader is not to make sure you send the right message, it's to make sure they hear it.
I first learned that lesson in my second year as a head coach. I didn't think our team was tough enough, and I was trying to set a different tone in practice when we came back after Christmas break. I thought I was clear about the message I was sending, but it wasn't the same message they were receiving.
This is from my book "Entitled To Nothing."
Keep Listening
That January provided another great lesson in leadership for me, a reminder of the importance of listening.
As promised, when we came back to practice, I set a different tone. Practice was more intense. I was relentless with every toughness play and I had no let up. Our guys were coming back from a long break, so it was a little shocking for them. And I was fine with that. We needed to get tougher.
The problem was the extended break, combined with the new tone I was trying to set, led to some miserable practices. We were awful. The guys were out of playing shape after too many days off, and I kept driving them harder. I didn’t have a lot of patience or let up, because I knew we had to be tougher. The combination didn’t work, and for two days of practice everyone was miserable. I was convinced, however, that the new tone was something they needed to get used to.
After that second miserable practice, after the guys had gone home, I got a phone call in the office from Kinsey Durgin. Kinsey was unquestionably a team leader and also one of the best players in the league. His phone call turned out to be a very important conversa‐ tion in my development as a head coach.
Kinsey started out by telling me how much he loved playing for me, and how everyone on the team felt the same way. He said the entire team was bought in to what we were doing, but for the last two days they noticed a different tone, and everyone was miserable.
“We all love playing for you. But the last two days haven’t been the same. We feel like you are giving up on us, and you don’t believe in us. We’ve had coaches give up on us before, and guys are afraid that is happening again. So, please don’t give up on us.”
I was taken aback. Kinsey and I had a great relationship, and the conversation was very cordial. But at first, I wasn’t very comfortable. One of my players was basically calling me out as a coach and giving me constructive criticism. My first reaction was to defend myself. I was the head coach, right? Players don’t tell the coach what to do. I was a little tense. Fortunately, I didn’t get defensive.
We talked about why I was setting a different tone, because I didn’t think we were tough enough. He agreed that we needed to get tougher, but he didn’t think the guys were bought in to how we were going about it. The tougher tone was making everybody unhappy, and the tone was very negative. More importantly some of the guys were starting to turn on me and give up on the team. My approach was making us worse, not better.
I wasn’t sure how to react. We had a good conversation, but I defi‐ nitely felt like as the head coach my players shouldn’t be telling me what to do. My ego was definitely bruised. I needed to figure out what to do. Luckily, I didn’t respond in any way right on the phone, probably out of shock. Phil Jackson says, “When in doubt, do noth‐ ing,” and luckily, I followed that advice. Because I didn’t know what to do.
The next day I spoke to the team about the conversation I had with Kinsey. I thanked him for calling me to talk, and I apologized for the tone that I had set in the first two practices after the break. I made it very clear that I would never give up on them. I again explained what I was doing and why I was doing it. I reiterated the point that we needed to get tougher to win the league, and the players agreed. I asked them how we were going to get there.
We came to an understanding that they would hold each other accountable for all of the toughness plays on a daily basis. I would make sure I pointed them out and coached them on it, but they would have to take responsibility. They needed to correct the behavior and make sure it was unacceptable. In return, I would make sure the tone stayed positive. I’d still coach them and hold them accountable, but I wouldn’t get negative about it. They were going to take even more ownership. I had to give them the room.
To be honest, I wasn’t entirely comfortable with it at first. I was glad we had the conversation, and it felt good to have my team back. The guys were much better in practice moving forward and competed at a high level. The atmosphere was positive and fun. But I still wasn’t entirely sure that we’d be able to get tougher. I’d point out the soft plays in practice and I’d say “How are we going to change the behavior guys? How do you want to do it?” I tried not to yell or get too negative, and the point was more “you told me you were going to correct it, so what are we going to do about it?” It was risky as a coach, because I still didn’t think we were tough enough. But it felt good to get my team back. And little did I know we were creating more trust and ownership.
The Lesson They Receive
One other important leadership lesson I reinforced that week was that the message you deliver isn’t nearly as important as the message your team receives. I had explained clearly to our group what we were going to do that January, and they were on board with it. I gave them the why. But when I got to executing the plan, the message they were receiving was very different from the one I was trying to deliver. I thought I was showing them we needed to be tougher. They thought I no longer believed in them, that I was giving up on them.
It didn’t matter what message I thought I was delivering because it wasn’t getting across that way. What really matters is the message they are receiving, no matter what you think you are saying to them. That responsibility falls not on your team, but on you as the leader.
Leaders Don't Get Paid In Cash
"The better you get at leading others, the more it looks like you are unnecessary. The fruits of skillful leadership are eaten by others without awareness that the leader did much"
https://admiredleadership.substack.com/p/leaders-dont-get-paid-in-cash
Bill Bowerman - "Professor of Competitive Responses"
Phil Knight's description of his college track coach and first partner with Nike, from his book Shoe Dog.
The most famous track coach in America, Bowerman never considered himself a track coach. He detested being called Coach. Given his background, his makeup, he naturally thought of track as a means to an end. He called himself a "Professor of Competitive Responses," and his job, as he saw it, and often described it, was to get you ready for the struggles and competitions that lay ahead, far beyond Oregon.
5 Characteristics of Successful Teams
Todd Golden, the head coach at San Francisco, and his high school coach Dan Mannix from Phoenix.
A day before the Grand Canyon game, Golden and the Dons practiced at Sunnyslope, bringing the coach’s basketball life full circle. With players seated for a film session, Golden introduced Rosenbaum, who stood off to the side. Then Golden asked former Sunnyslope head coach Dan Mannix to say a few words in a gymnasium that bears his name.
Mannix told the Dons that successful teams have five characteristics. They communicate. “On the court and off with teammates and coaches.” They trust. “If I’m pressuring the ball, I’m trusting that you got my back.” They’re responsible. “Individual and collective.” They’re caring. “You care about each other and care about what you’re doing.” And they have pride. “You take pride in yourself, pride in your team, pride that you represent your parents and your school.”